How To Deal With An Irate Neighbour

If someone is going off their nut at you, the following may help you avoid escalating the situation into a call to the police.

  1. KEEP YOUR VOICE LOW, SLOW, AND LEVEL

It takes restraint to not match a loud, high volume as someone hurls expletives in your direction, but yelling makes you look like an immature twat. You can catch more flies with honey, and all that.

  1. BE EXCEEDINGLY NICE

Nothing screws with an angry person’s head more than when the person they are being rude to is really nice to them. It makes is hard for them to remain mad, in fact.

  1. EXPLAIN WHAT HAPPENED

They are likely upset because you disrupted their routine somehow. Maybe they have a baby.

  1. APOLOGISE

Nothing like a little empathy to show maturity – especially when you’ve stuffed up.

  1. GIVE THEM A SOLUTION

Because you do care about being a good neighbour, and concrete solutions are they key to conflict resolution.

  1. IF YOU’VE TRIED ALL OF THE ABOVE

And they’re still irate, remember that you do not have to put up with people yelling at you. If they have not accepted what you have to say, apologise again, say you need to go now, and leave. Then keep the promises you outlined above.

To Avoid having an irate neighbour in the first place, try these simple steps:

  • Introduce yourself when you move in. Friends help friends. Bring baking.
  • Let them know beforehand when you are planning a party. Aim for at least 24 hours’ notice. Include when it starts and finishes, and when you promise to turn the music down. Also give them your cell phone number so they can call you first, instead of noise control.
  • Keep the noise down during the party. Bass travels, and you don’t really need it cranked up anyway. Seriously.